About your first point, yes, I see where you're coming from, but I'm still unable to make that jump fiction=author's real intentions (perhaps it sounds more outlandish to me than to others because I've been trained in literature studies, where the point author=/=narrator gets hammered into you from the start. And turned around, we've had tons and tons of positive depictions of 'kill the indians/commies/enemies of choice'... And there wasn't enough of a shitstorm (if much of any), over 'Silence of the Lambs', for example. I'm not saying you're wrong, but I still see a huge double standard when the issue of sex comes in (and not only with fictional portrayals of outright illegal things).

Of course you're right about one being unable to really distinguish between stories and intentions in anonymous net posts, but again, equating those seems (also from a personal pov) totally alien to me.