I think you're summing my attitude up in the wrong way. In the first place, I'm not telling anyone they have to do anything; I'm just telling you the way I would prefer to see things handled. In the second place, I didn't think the original objection was out of line at all. She came forward and stated her position and explained things very clearly and should have been taken seriously. I was not making any judgment on her or her 'tone.' I'm not any happier about the community or its mods being disrespectful than I am about the third parties who are being disrespectful. I think other people jumping in after the fact (again, on both sides) were rude and turned things into a bit of a circus. I don't like terms like 'bitch' being hurled around. And that was a term I saw used to describe the original protester, not on her behalf. And I'm not saying you "have" to be sweet or gentle with anyone under any circumstances. But I certainly think you'll come off as a more reasonable individual if you approach the situation in a calm and respectful way. Although I was unfamiliar with the word used for the tag, I felt once the meaning of the word was made clear it should have been removed immediately. I felt the ensuing protests were the correct way to handle things. But I felt many of the personal remarks--such as calling witchbane a 'bitch'--were completely uncalled for and did nothing to resolve things or elevate the discussion, and instead created further tension and anger.

And if you'd like to discuss this further, it might be better to drop a message in one of my recent posts, so we don't clutter up Hijja's too much. : )