kennahijja | (no subject)

I'm having a headache, and am feeling depressed.

We've learned a few weeks ago that the wife of the professor I'm working for had to go into hospital to have a tumour removed. Today, he got the news that it has obviously spread and is looking far worse than originally expected. He's completely down, of course, and I just feel so *helpless* - there's no real way of being of use except for taking care of as many work-related things as possible while he's away, and I'm just no good at expressing comfort, especially when it feels so hollow.

It's just not bloody fair! They're wonderful people, he in particular, and it's so *unfair* that something like that should happen to them. It really had me down in the dumps all day today...

And drinking a glass of bubbly wine on a near-empty stomach at a lecturer's leaving reception because I was so frustrated did noting but give me a headache and some blurred brain processes.

Life really sucks today.

ETA: off to amble home now - *hugs all of you*

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I wish there was something I could say, but we're both old enough to know that there isn't. It is awful and it's probably not going to get better from what you say. I wish I could just come round and give you a hug.

xx

Thanks! Actually, the sentiment alone helped already :)

'Pay the price, for nothing's fair' - one of my favourite quotes. Nothing's fair and it's all just random. No, there's nothing one can say, or do, except letting them know that you care. But you already know this... Sorry.

Take care.

I'm so sorry, for you and for them. *sends virtual hugs*

((((( Hijja )))))

I feel your pain, and your depression - I heard yesterday that a girl I knew on a message board (in a different fandom than HP) was run over by a car last week - she was my age and had never meant anyone any harm. Sometimes it takes so little to utterly ruin a human life.

I just really, really hope there is a sense in this that we, being merely human, are just failing to see.

Oh, that's a shame. People do notice, though, when you try to make things a bit easier for them. I think you can *say* comforting things, and you can *do* comforting things, and one's just as good as the other.

The best friend is the one who may say the wrong thing but is there with you when you need them.

*HUG*

there's no real way of being of use except for taking care of as many work-related things as possible while he's away

That'll help more than you realize; it may be unshowy, but your doing that will ensure he doesn't feel isolated and weighed down with work he can't hope to complete in his present state. Trust me, you are being of use.

*another HUG*

Oh, that's an awful thing. Don't have any wise words to say, but I send you lots of hugs. I see you really care about them, and it's great that you care.

*offers avocado and hugs and shares the useless feeling*

*hugs*

There's nothing more I can say.

Take care.